I am going to talk with you about something that has lit up social media recently. A well-known pastor, Alistair Begg has brought a bit of controversy upon himself. Alistair has described the situation as a “tempest in a teacup.” I think it is bigger than that. As a part of a Truth for Life broadcast, Alistair shared that he had been contacted by a Truth for Life listener (that is his preaching ministry). The woman shared that her grandson[1] was planning to marry a transgender person. She asked Alistair what she should do. Alistair asked, “Does your grandson understand your belief in Jesus?”[2] The woman replied “Yes.” Alistair then asked, “Does your grandson understand that your belief in Jesus makes it such that you can’t countenance in any affirming way the choices that he has made in life?” Once more, she said, “yes.” Alistair said, “As long as he knows that, then I suggest that you do go to the ceremony. And I suggest that you buy them a gift.” “Oh,” she said, “what?” She was caught off guard. “I said, ‘Well, here’s the thing: your love for them may catch them off guard, but your absence will simply reinforce the fact that they said, ‘These people are what I always thought: judgmental, critical, unprepared to countenance anything.’” Begg added, referencing his advice, “We’re going to have to take that risk a lot more if we want to build bridges into the hearts and lives of those who don’t understand Jesus and don’t understand that he is a King.” This advice was broadcast in September of 2023.
There have been several conservative evangelicals who have responded to Alistair’s counsel.[3] American Family Radio, which has broadcast Alistair’s sermons (i.e. Truth for Life) for years, reached out to Alistair to ask him if he stands by the counsel he gave. Representatives of Alistair responded that he stands by his previous advice. So, American Family Radio has discontinued broadcasting Alistair’s sermons. American Family Association (AFA) vice president Ed Vitagliano commented, “This is the wrong advice from a pastor, and it is unbiblical.”[4] John MacArthur was in contact with Alistair Begg regarding the situation. John strongly disagreed with Alistair’s advice. As a result of the situation, there was mutual agreement that he withdraws as a speaker at the upcoming Shepherd’s Conference hosted by Grace Community Church.[5] On the other hand, Matthew Vines, a practicing homosexual recognizes Begg as non-affirming but applauds him for standing by his advice.[6] Christianity Today (which is already long down the road of theological compromise and liberalism) responded with a piece pointing out how the majority of white evangelicals do not affirm homosexuality or homosexual marriage.[7]
I would like to frame my response by saying, I believe Alistair is a brother in Christ. He has preached God’s Word faithfully for decades (he is 71 years old). I have had great respect for Alistair and have benefited from his ministry of expository preaching over the years. My family and I have attended services at Parkside Church on two occasions.
Here are some positive takeaways regarding Alistair’s advice:
- He believes homosexuality and transgenderism are sins and are not acceptable to God.
- He believes that homosexual marriage is not acceptable to God.
- He believes that this grandmother should make certain that her grandson knows that she is a Christian and cannot affirm his sinful choices.
Here are some negative takeaways from Alistair’s advice:
- What does it mean exactly to make sure the grandson knows, “you can’t countenance in any affirming way the choices” the grandson has made in life? According to Alistair the grandmother could attend and bring a gift to the event but still not be affirming in any way.
- Do you remember the old days at weddings when Pastors would ask, “Does anyone here today have any reason why these two should not be joined together?” I must say, brothers and sisters, it is highly unlikely that such a question would be asked today, especially not at a gay or transgender wedding. There is no interest in disagreement, only affirmation. Alistair didn’t encourage attending the event with this intention in mind. When you attend a wedding (and bring a gift), you are attending as a witness and one who is celebrating the couple.
- The Lord created the covenant union of marriage, a union of one man and one woman who become one flesh (Gen. 2:18-25). The Lord Jesus reiterated this truth, “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:6–9). Thus, homosexual marriage is an act of rebellion against the Creator God. Christians cannot celebrate such a thing. It is not a marriage in the eyes of God. It is a delusion. The covenant union of marriage between one man and one woman is a picture of the covenant union between Christ and the Church (Eph. 5:22-33). So, it is an invalid marriage and ultimately a mockery of Christ.
- Doug Wilson points out that, as Alistair acknowledged, not attending a transgender wedding means something. It means you don’t countenance in any affirming way the choices being made. Attending a transgender wedding also means something. It means you don’t countenance in any affirming way the choices being made, except in this instance.[8] But, non-attendance doesn’t seem like the loving thing to do, right? Carl Trueman challenges that notion, “To consider a declined invitation necessarily a sign of hatred is to adopt the notion of ‘hate’ as a mere refusal to affirm. That is our secular age’s understanding, and not that of the Christian faith. A refusal to attend might also offend, but to make the giving of offense itself into a moral category is to replace moral categories of right and wrong with aesthetic categories of taste. The latter should always be subordinate to the former in the realm of ethical questions.”[9] We cannot allow the values and estimation of the unbelieving world determine our stance or response. The more apt question is, what does Scripture say? For Alistair, or anyone else, to make attendance at such an event the only way to show love in this instance is a false equivalence. In fact, by doing so, he has demonstrated that he has already surrendered to the terms of the unbelieving world, caving to their manipulative tactics.
- Attending with a gift is approval.
- Marriage is between a man and a woman. Homosexuality is offensive to God. Homosexual marriage is a rebellion and a delusion.
- Alistair’s advice is wrong. It is not based upon Scripture.
As disappointed as I was over the advice, I am more troubled by his follow-up sermon. During the evening service at Parkside Church (where Alistair is the Senior Pastor) on Sunday, January 28th, Alistair defended his previous counsel in a sermon from Luke 15 entitled, “Compassion vs. Condemnation” (i.e. Parable of the Lost Sheep, the Parable of the Lost Coin and the Parable of the Prodigal Son). Begg said, “My response to one grandmother whom I have never met was not in any way a blanket recommendation to all Christians to attend LGBTQ weddings.”[10] He went on to say, “In that conversation with that grandmother, I was concerned about the wellbeing of their relationship more than anything else — hence, my counsel… Don’t misunderstand that in any way at all. If I was on the receiving end of another question about another situation from another person and another time, I may answer absolutely differently. But in that case, I answered in that way, and I would not answer in any other way no matter what anybody says on the Internet as of the last 10 days.” Begg went on to say, “’I’ve lived here for 40 years,’ said Begg, who was born in Scotland, ‘and those who know me best know that when we talk theology, when we talk stuff, I’ve always said [that] I am a little bit out of sync with the American evangelical world. [That’s] for this reason: that I am the product of British evangelicalism, represented by John Stott, Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Eric Alexander, Sinclair Ferguson and Derek Prime. I am a product of that. I have never been a product of American fundamentalism. I come from a world in which it is possible for people to actually grasp the fact that there are nuances in things. Everything is not so categorically clear that if you put one foot out of this box, you’ve got to be removed from the box forever.’”[11]
So, Alistair has tripled down on his advice. He acknowledged that not all the Pastors at Parkside agree with him. I have a number of issues with Alistair’s sermon and comments.
Here are some negative takeaways:
- The title of Alistair’s message, delivered in defense of his previous advice and to answer his critics, was, “Compassion vs. Condemnation.” So, for one to disagree with Alistair, who views himself as the compassionate one, is to be condemning. Okay. We are off to a good start.
- Begg likens modern Christians who disagree with him to the Pharisees (he emphasizes them as separatists) and the prodigal son’s bitter older brother. He says they have not experienced grace and forgiveness. Wow. This is an ad hominem attack. People can disagree with your advice or stance without being a Pharisee or the bitter older brother. Alistair’s critique of the Pharisees’ separatism is used for effect. He is indicating that those who are unwilling to agree with his counsel are in effect, graceless separatists. Is Alistair saying that those who have experienced grace and forgiveness would be willing to forgive those involved in unrepentant sin? What about the Lord, whom the father in the prodigal son story represents, does he forgive those involved in unrepentant sin? Alistair knows the Lord does not forgive those who are involved in unrepentant sin. In fact, Scripture teaches us that those involved in unrepentant homosexuality will be damned for all eternity (1 Cor. 6:9-10; cf. Gal. 5:19-21; Eph. 5:5). So, how exactly does the prodigal son story justify Alistair’s takeaways? It doesn’t square with Scripture.
- So, those who disagree with Alistair are like the Pharisees and the bitter older brother who have not experienced grace and forgiveness. Why? Well, according to Alistair because they disagree with him. This is Bulverism (more on this later). He does not show why American Christians who disagree with him have not experienced grace and forgiveness. He just says they haven’t because they disagree with him.
- Alistair used the prodigal son story to justify himself and in doing so mishandled the biblical text. If he equates the American Christians who disagreed with him with the bitter older brother, who is the prodigal? Certainly not the grandson who is involved in homosexuality and planning to marry a transgender person. The father in the story (who represents the Lord) didn’t go play in the pig slop with the prodigal son. The prodigal son had to return home in repentance. The sin of the older brother was that he was unwilling to forgive and celebrate the return of his repentant brother. This biblical account cannot be used to justify what Alistair intends here. The obvious point of the text is the Lord is willing to receive back and forgive those who repent of their sin.
- Alistair lamented the fact that his past faithfulness and stances on homosexuality didn’t seem to matter. Most are not discounting these things. Christians have a problem, on biblical grounds, with your advice to the grandma. You can be right about a lot of things, or even most things, and still be wrong at times.
- Finally, Alistair described himself as the product of British evangelicalism (John Stott, Martyn Lloyd-Jones, Eric Alexander, Sinclair Ferguson, Derek Prime). Begg went on to say, “I am a product of that. I have never been a product of American fundamentalism. I come from a world in which it is possible for people to actually grasp the fact that there are nuances in things. Everything is not so categorically clear that if you put one foot out of this box, you’ve got to be removed from the box forever.” Alistair once again employs a logical fallacy known as Bulverism (“You think this because you are a man… a woman… an American… a Brit, etc…”). In this case, you disagree with me because you are an American fundamentalist, which he is painting as a negative. C.S. Lewis, the one who coined the term Bulverism, wrote, “You must show that a man is wrong before you start explaining why he is wrong. The modern method is to assume without discussion that he is wrong and then distract his attention from this (the only real issue) by busily explaining how he came to be so silly.”
- So, American fundamentalists can’t grasp the fact that there are nuances in things. Why? Well, according to Alistair because they are Americans and fundamentalists. Once again, this is Bulverism. He does not show why American Christians (who are not all fundamentalists, by the way) who disagree with him can’t grasp theological nuance. He just says they can’t because they are Americans and Fundamentalists.
- Alistair is a little too full of himself and British evangelicalism, as opposed to American Fundamentalism. We poor ignoramuses can’t possibly handle the superior wisdom of a British Evangelical. Let me say this slowly, so even American Christians can understand, that to disagree with him in this situation means we just don’t get it. Wrong. We disagree. We don’t believe your counsel is biblical and we certainly don’t agree with your application of the biblical passage. Christians, not just American ones and not just fundamentalists, disagree with you, Alistair.
- Anne Kennedy, an Anglican pastor’s wife, writes, “Toward the end of the sermon, Begg said that he isn’t really part of this current brand of American Evangelicalism. He is of the British, John Stott variety which is more nuanced, which doesn’t get into these storms in teacups. And yet, only a moment before, he said he had been preaching in that congregation for forty years. Forty years is a biblical generation. My continued faith is one of the fruits of his faithfulness—a faithfulness that shaped the very thing now he admits he doesn’t understand. How is this so? Can Begg be a victim of American binary thinking? He has spoken at all the conferences, sat on all the stages, had his sermons listened to by everyone. And yet now, all those whom he has raised up don’t understand the difference between condemnation and compassion? I don’t believe it. I think that this wonderful, faithful preacher has made a grave error and then, when in the face of an outpouring of grief, has tried to defend his position with a misuse of Scripture—something Jesus would never approve. I hope you will join me in praying that the Holy Spirit will convict his heart, will enlighten his mind, and put better and more loving words on his tongue.”[12]
- Alistair said that he repents daily but he does not need to repent of this [advice]. This is an important reminder for us. James 3:1-2 says, “Not many of you should become teachers, my brothers, for you know that we who teach will be judged with greater strictness. For we all stumble in many ways. And if anyone does not stumble in what he says, he is a perfect man, able also to bridle his whole body.” Owen Strachan comments, “Begg is prone to stumble as we are. We know that Begg—like all our exemplars and heroes—is just a man. But sometimes we put men on pedestals. That’s not right, and honestly, it’s not fair to them. They stumble in many ways just as we do (James 3:2). We have to remember this when we grieve a public leader’s words as many are in this case. Begg’s error does not set him apart from the rest of us. He is called to a daily walk of confession, repentance, humility, and growth like every other believer.”[13]
- When all is said and done, Alistair has portrayed his critics as:
- Pharisees – who are unregenerate separatists
- The prodigal son’s bitter older brother – who represents the unregenerate Israelites
- American Fundamentalists – who are separatists, like the unregenerate Pharisees
- American Evangelicals – who are unable to grasp theological nuance
- When all is said and done, Alistair has:
- Given poor advice to a grandmother based not upon Scripture but upon misguided sentimentality. The ones involved in unrepentant immorality will not think you are judgmental.
- Misrepresented the biblical account of the prodigal son
- Slandered brothers and sisters in Christ, especially American ones
- This was all done for the purpose of justifying his initial advice.
- When all is said and done, Alistair has portrayed his critics as:
So, what should we do in light of these matters?
- Pray for Alistair Begg. Pray that God would grant Alistair repentance and humility to acknowledge his error – in his advice and his sermon.
- Pray for Parkside Church. Pray for God’s wisdom and guidance for them. Pray that the Pastors of Parkside would have wisdom in how they respond to this situation.
- Pray for all Christians, and local churches everywhere. Pray that God will give us wisdom and discernment, helping us to hold fast to the Word in all circumstances.
- I will leave you with the following astute assessment by Carl Trueman (born in Dudley, England, by the way), “In short, attending a gay wedding involves remaining silent when one should speak. It involves a concession on bodily sex that undermines any attempt to hold fast to the importance of the biological distinction between men and women. And it involves approving of a ceremony that makes a mockery of a central New Testament teaching and of Christ himself. That’s a very high price tag for avoiding hurting someone’s feelings. And if Christians still think it worth paying, the future of the Church is bleak indeed.”[14]
[1] Alistair described the individual as a grandson during the radio show, but during his sermon referred to the individual as a granddaughter.
[2] https://www.christianheadlines.com/contributors/michael-foust/alistair-begg-sparks-controversy-for-encouraging-grandma-to-attend-transgender-wedding.html
[3] Pastors Doug Wilson, Colin Smothers, Grant Castleberry, Professors James Wood, Owen Strachan, Carl Trueman, and Apologist James White have all written responses to Begg’s broadcasted advice.
[4] https://afn.net/church/2024/01/23/radio-ministry-awaits-explanation-from-begg-re-advice-to-a-grandmother/
[5] https://religionnews.com/2024/01/31/radio-preacher-alistair-begg-wont-back-down-from-advice-to-attend-lgbtq-wedding/
[6] https://twitter.com/VinesMatthew/status/1750980152480215452
[7] https://www.christianitytoday.com/news/2024/january/alistair-begg-lgbtq-gay-wedding-advice-radio-sermon-truth.html
[8] https://dougwils.com/books-and-culture/s7-engaging-the-culture/alistair-beggs-off.html
[9] https://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2024/01/can-christians-attend-gay-weddings
[10] https://www.christianheadlines.com/contributors/michael-foust/alistair-begg-addresses-his-transgender-wedding-critics-during-sunday-evening-sermon.html
[11] https://www.christianheadlines.com/contributors/michael-foust/alistair-begg-addresses-his-transgender-wedding-critics-during-sunday-evening-sermon.html
[12] https://annekennedy.substack.com/p/alistair-begg-and-the-loving-thing
[13] https://owenstrachan.substack.com/p/unrighteous-wedding-invitations-a
[14] https://www.firstthings.com/web-exclusives/2024/01/can-christians-attend-gay-weddings