EMHE #7 – An UnGodly Woman/Wife

Extreme Makeover Home EditionAn Ungodly Woman/WifeProverbs 5:3-5Message #7Intro:– A couple of weeks ago we looked at the 6th message in the series Extreme Makeover Home Edition – A Godly Woman/Wife.  In that passage we received some instruction from God on how a woman is able to be a godly woman and wife.  We learned God’s design for what a godly woman/wife looks like.  This is something that is only possible with God’s enablement.  This kind of godly woman/wife brings honor to God, brings blessing to her family, and is a picture of Christ to the world.  A woman like this is a woman who loves and glorifies God through her life.  – This morning we are going to take a look at the flip-side of that message.  Today we are going to explore what the Bible says about being an Ungodly Woman/Wife.  We are obviously not going to explore every facet of this topic, but we will look at a few different descriptions that the Bible has to offer.   – In these two-part message we are going to see what to avoid, what to model for others, and what to teach our kids.  The teachings in the Word of God are essential for true success in life. 1) Flattering Speech (3)– An immoral/adulterous woman has very persuasive/attractive things to say              * Drip honey – sweet words, maybe literal kisses                     {Honey – the sweetest substance in Ancient Israel}              * Smooth words – flattery                     {Olive Oil – the smoothest substance in Ancient Israel}       – See these Scriptures –>* Prov 2:16 – “To deliver you from the strange woman, From the adulteress who flatterswith her words;”        * Prov 6:24 – “To keep you from the evil woman, From the smooth tongue of the adulteress.”              * Prov 7:21 – “With her many persuasions she entices him; With her                            flattering lips she seduces him.”          – On the other hand, here is a woman with no flattery in her speech* Prov 21:9.19 – “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.  It is better to live in a desert land than with a contentious and vexing woman.”* Prov 25:24 – “It is better to live in a corner of the roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.”* Prov 27:15-16 – “A constant dripping on a day of steady rain and a contentious woman are alike; He who would  restrain her restrains the wind, and  grasps oil with his right hand.” class=Section2>   class=Section3> 2) False Advertising (4)– When things are concluded here words led to nothing pleasant, instead the results are poisonous/harmful, they will injure you              * End – the result              * Bitter – anguish, the mental state of great intense distress* Wormwood – a very unpleasant substance that would make you sick from consuming it, something poisonous or deadly    – See these Scriptures –>* Ps 37:37 – “Mark the blameless man, and behold the upright; for the man of peace will have a posterity.”* Ps 73:17 – “Until I came into the sanctuary of God; Then I perceived their end.” 3) Fatal Results (5)– Being involved with her leads to great harm, even death              * Where she walks leads to death – don’t walk with her              * Sheol – the realm of the dead    – See these Scriptures –>* Prov 2:18 – “For her house sinks down to death and her tracks lead to the dead;”* Prov 7:27 – “Her house is the way to Sheol, descending to the chambers of death.”* Prov 9:18 – “But he does not know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of Sheol.” class=Section4>   class=Section5> 4) Faulty Thinking (6)– This woman doesn’t think about the consequences of her actions, she does not think about God’s reaction to her actions; her actions are dangerous and she doesn’t know it              * Unstable shaky, she is walking on shaky ground    – See these Scriptures  –>* Prov 4:11 – “I have directed you in the way of wisdom; I have led you in upright paths.”  5) Flash, No Substance (1 Tim 2:9-10)Dress modestly, not just with expensive fancy clothes to gain the attention of others; gain the attention of others through your good works/deeds (godliness), which is expected from women who claim to be Christians* 1 Pet 3:3-5 – “Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.  For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands;”*Eph 2:10 – “For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.”* Acts 9:36,39 – “Now in Joppa there was a disciple named Tabitha (which translated in Greek is called  Dorcas); this woman was abounding with deeds of kindness and charity which she continually did.   So Peter arose and went with them. When he arrived, they brought him into the upper room; and all the widows stood beside him, weeping and showing all the tunics and garments that Dorcas used to make while she was with them.” 6) First Place, Not Godliness (1 Tim 2:11-12)– A woman must not be the official recognized teacher (pastor) of a local church, she must not exercise authority over a man (domineer, have control over; idiomatically – to shout orders at, act like chief toward, or bark orders at – Louw and Nida); Remain quiet – a respectfulness, submissive attitude toward the pastor(s); she does not try to lead the church (or as mentioned in other places her husband) * 1 Cor 14:34-35 – “The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says.  If they desire to learn anything, let them ask their own husbands at home; for it is improper for a woman to speak in church.”* Eph 5:22-24 – “Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.  But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything”                    * Col 3:18 – “Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.”* 1 Pet 3:1,5-6 – “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, for in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.”  7) Fast Track, Not Family (1 Tim 2:15)Women will be preserved/saved through bearing children, if the women continue in faith, love, sanctity/holiness with self-control/restraint* Titus 2:3-5 – “Older women likewise are to be reverent/respectful in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage/train the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.”* 1 Tim 5:14 – “Therefore, I want younger widows to get married, bear children, keep house/be busy at home, and give the enemy no occasion for reproach;”* Prov 14:1 – “The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”* Prov 31:27-29 – “She looks well to the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.  Her children rise up and bless her; her husband also, and he praises her, saying: “Many daughters have done nobly, but you excel them all.””          – Bible Knowledge CommentaryThe interpretation of the verse is further clouded by the conditional clause at the end: if they, that is, mothers, continue in faith, love, and holiness with propriety. Whatever one understands the first part of the verse to be affirming, it is contingent on a woman’s willingness to abide in these four virtues. Hence the second of the preceding options seems most likely. A woman will find her greatest satisfaction and meaning in life, not in seeking the male role, but in fulfilling God’s design for her as wife and mother with all “faith, love, and holiness with propriety” (self-restraint; 1 Tim. 2:9).         – Tyndale Concise CommentaryAs they learned, women were to listen to and respect those whom God had placed in positions of church leadership.  Paul’s words in 2:12 do not mean that women should never teach. They are encouraged to teach in certain contexts (cf. Titus 2:3). Although debated, this appears to prohibit women from holding permanent positions of authoritative teaching in the church. “Have authority” (2:12) is to act as one’s own authority, to have mastery over, or to exercise dominion. Teaching in the meeting of the church is apparently viewed by Paul as an exercise of authority (cf. also 1 Cor. 14:34–35). Women are to maintain their proper relationships with their husbands. To “learn quietly” refers to an outer expression of an inward state.  The focus of 2:13–14 is on Genesis 1–3. Eve overstepped the bounds set by Adam and God (cf. Gen. 3:17, “because you listened to [obeyed] your wife”). See also Genesis 3:13; 16:2; and 2 Corinthians 11:3. In this context the woman was deceived into usurping the authority placed over her. Paul sought to show that if she had listened to Adam she would not have sinned. Eve and women generally, by accepting their God-given functions, can be saved the trouble that results from overstepping their bounds. Although equal in spiritual privilege (1 Pet. 3:7), men and women have different roles in terms of ministry. God’s created order establishes these role relationships for men and women which, if bypassed, lead to disaster as illustrated by the fall.  “Through childbearing” (2:15) is Paul’s way of summarizing the role of the woman (cf. 5:14). It refers to the whole process and related activities of bearing and raising children. Many evangelicals believe Paul is referring to salvation through the incarnation of Christ. But this seems like an obscure way to refer to this doctrine. Contextually, Paul seems to be referring to physical salvation or deliverance from the temptation to usurp authority (the problem of 2:12). Such deliverance is possible for the woman who gives herself to the ministry of home and family life.         – Warren Wiersbe But Paul teaches a practical lesson (1 Tim. 2:15). He promised that the woman would “be kept safe through childbirth” (niv) if “they” (both husband and wife) continued in sincere dedication to the Lord.  Does this mean that Christian mothers will never die in childbirth? History and experience both tell us that they do. God has His purposes, and His ways are far above our thoughts (Isa. 55:8–9). Paul laid down a general principle that encouraged the believing women of that day. Their ministry was not to “run” the church, but to care for the home and bear children to the glory of God (1 Tim. 5:14). Their home congregation would give them abundant opportunities for teaching the Word and ministering to the saints (see Rom. 16:1–6).  Godly women do have an important ministry in the local assembly, even though they are not called to be teachers of the Word in a pastoral sense. If all is done “decently and in order,” then God will bless.         – Jamieson, Fausset, and BrownMoreover, I think it is implied indirectly that the very curse will be turned into a condition favorable to her salvation, by her faithfully performing her part in doing and suffering what God has assigned to her, namely, child-bearing and home duties, her sphere, as distinguished from public teaching, which is not hers, but man’s (1Ti 2:11, 12). In this home sphere, not ordinarily in one of active duty for advancing the kingdom of God, which contradicts the position assigned to her by God, she will be saved on the same terms as all others, namely, by living faith.  Conclusion:– So in this two-part 7th message in our series we looked at some passages that will help us to learn from the example of the Ungodly Woman/Wife.  We saw that see has 7 Errors that we want to avoid in our own lives.            1) Flattering speech (Prov 5:3)          2) False Advertising (5:4)          3) Fatal Results (5:5)          4) Faulty Thinking (5:6)          5) Flash, No Substance (1 Tim 2:9-10)          6) First Place, Not Godliness (2:11-12)          7) Fast Track, Not Family (2:15)– These are things that Christian women want to avoid doing, Christian men want to avoid becoming involved in relationships with women like this, and we want to help our daughters and sons avoid these errors.

– Come back next Sunday morning as we look at Message #8 in our series Extreme Makeover Home Edition – A Godly Man/Husband. 




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