Extreme Makeover Home EditionAn Ungodly Man/HusbandMessage #9 – pt 1Proverbs 6:6-19Intro:^ Last Sunday night we looked at the 2nd-part of the message A Godly Man/Husband. We explored 8 areas that enable a man to be who God wants him to be. Here are those 8 areas: 1) Love your wife and kids 2) Encourage your wife to grow spiritually 3) Raise your kids to love and honor God 4) Teach your sons to be men of God and to love their wife 5) Teach your daughters to be women of God and to respect their husband 6) Be a hard worker 7) Be actively involved in a local church 8) Be a witness for Christ^ This week we are going to look at the 9th message in our series Extreme Makeover Home Edition: An Ungodly Man/Husband – pt 1. This will give us the flip-side of last week’s message, so that we can see what to avoid. ^ One thing that our families do not need any more of are: ungodly men. The thing that our families and our churches need the most are godly men. As men God has given us the role of spiritual leadership in the home and the church and we need to step forward with His enablement to be the kind of men He has called us to be. Also we need to help our sons avoid these mistakes, and help our daughters to avoid marrying men that exhibit these mistakes consistently in their lives. Verses 6-11– Laziness will bring punishment and undesirable consequences > The ant is an example of hard work (6-8)* She has no boss to make her work, but she still prepares her food in the summer time and gathers her food at harvest time. She works to prepare for future needs, then she stores and gathers while it is warm.* “You lazy fool, look at an ant. Watch it closely; let it teach you a thing or two. Nobody has to tell it what to do. All summer it stores up food;at harvest it stockpiles provisions. So how long are you going to laze around doing nothing? How long before you get out of bed? A nap here, a nap there, a day off here, a day off there, sit back, take it easy—do you know what comes next? Just this: You can look forward to a dirt-poor life, poverty your permanent houseguest!” Proverbs 6:6-11 – The Message * “The virtue of wisdom is not in being busy but in having a proper view of forthcoming needs that motivate one to action. Those who act only when commanded do not possess wisdom.” BKC> The results of this kind of lazy lifestyle (9-11)* Laying down all the time, sleeping all the time, instead of working like he should* Just like a vagabond/thief or an armed man/soldier will attack quickly, poverty will come quickly to a person who is lazy~ “I passed by the field of the sluggard and by the vineyard of the man lacking sense, and behold, it was completely overgrown with thistles;Its surface was covered with nettles, and its stone wall was broken down. When I saw, I reflected upon it; I looked, and received instruction. ‘A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest,’ Then your poverty will come as a robber and your want like an armed man.” Proverbs 23:30-34 – NASB Verses 12-15– Deceptive speech and actions, damaging speech and actions will bring punishment and undesirable consequences > A worthless (lit. a man of belial) and wicked person (12) * He is known for his false and deceptive words* “Put away from you a deceitful mouth and put devious speech far from you.” Prov 4:24 – NASB * “To deliver you from the way of evil, from the man who speaks perverse things; from those who leave the paths of uprightness to walk in the ways of darkness; who delight in doing evil and rejoice in the perversity of evil; whose paths are crooked, and who are devious in their ways;” Proverbs 2:12-15 – NASB> Winks with his eyes, signals with his feet, and points with his fingers, continually devising evil (13-14)* He is a man who is constantly devising a way to con/deceive other people, and he lets his co-conspirators know what he is thinking and doing with secret gestures that the victim does not understand. He pretends to be sincere and in reality there is nothing sincere about him.* He is continually devising evil plans and spreading strife between people, because of the evil in his heart. Through his insincerity he draws other people into discord and strife.* “Here is a description of worthless and wicked people: They are constant liars, signaling their true intentions to their friends by making signs with their eyes and feet and fingers. Their perverted hearts plot evil. They stir up trouble constantly. But they will be destroyed suddenly, broken beyond all hope of healing.” Proverbs 6:12-15 – NLT> Calamity will come suddenly, he will be broken instantly with no healing (15)* Because of the discord and strife that he has caused through his insincere words and gestures, he will be judged* “A man who hardens his neck after much reproof will suddenly be broken beyond remedy.” Proverbs 29:1 – NASB* “By describing a person who deceives and stirs up strife (vv. 12-15) and the activities such a person engages in (vv. 16-19), Solomon urged his son to avoid disaster (v. 15) and God’s hatred (v. 16).” BKC Verses 16-19 –> 7 Things that God hates– All seven of these things God obviously hates (from what the Bible says here). But in a numerical list like this the emphasis lies with the last thing listed. In this case it would be someone who spreads strife among brothers. 1) Prideful/haughty eyes> A proud look. God says repeatedly that He will bring down the proud, and He will exalt the humble. 2) A lying tongue> Something that is repeated throughout the O.T. (it is also mentioned in the N.T.) is that God hates dishonesty. In many cases lying was used to take advantage of those that were disadvantaged (widows, orphans, the poor). God judged the nation of Israel for these kind of actions. 3) Hands that shed innocent blood> Hands that murder. This is another one of those wrong actions that God disapproves of. He is the author/giver of life. Therefore only He is allowed to give and take away as He desires, not us. This has many implications for unborn children, handicapped people, and also the elderly. 4) A heart that devises wicked plans> Someone who is thinking ahead to do evil. In a criminal court proceeding this would be described as premeditated. This is something that should not be a part of our lives. We should not be planning to do evil or wrong. 5) Feet that run rapidly to do evil> It is not just the fact that they do evil. It is that they jump at the opportunity to do wrong things. If there is even a chance to get ahead by doing something wrong, they will take part. How many of us when there is an opportunity to get ahead by doing wrong will jump at it without a second thought? 6) A false witness who speaks lies> This is an extension of #2 (a lying tongue). God is just/righteous and He hates when someone who is innocent is falsely accused of wrongdoing. Those who are willing to lie to harm someone else, escape guilt themselves, and to get ahead will be judged by God. 7) Someone who spreads strife among brothers> We find the principle here that someone who is critical, negative; a troublemaker is not looked upon favorably by God. He does not like when someone is a troublemaker. * “Now I urge you, brothers, keep your eye on those who cause dissensions and hindrances contrary to the teaching which you learned, and turn away from them. For such men are slaves, not of our Lord Christ but of their own appetites; and by their smooth and flattering speech they deceive the hearts of the unsuspecting.” Romans 16:17-18* “If anyone advocates a different doctrine and does not agree with sound words, those of our Lord Jesus Christ, and with the doctrine conforming to godliness, he is conceited and understands nothing; but he has a morbid interest in controversial questions and disputes about words, out of which arise envy, strife, abusive language, evil suspicions, and constant friction between men of depraved mind and deprived of the truth, who suppose that godliness is a means of gain.” 1 Timothy 6:3-5> “There are six things the Lord hates, seven that are detestable to him: haughty eyes, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood, a heart that devises wicked schemes, feet that are quick to rush into evil, a false witness who pours out lies and a man who stirs up dissension among brothers.” Proverbs 6:16-19 NIV* “Apparently by his lies he causes friends to be suspicious of each other. Lying, referred to twice in this list of things God hates (vv. 17, 19), is one of the many wrong uses of words that are condemned in Proverbs.” BKC– “The two observations are that the person will pay for it (15) and that God especially loathes this behavior (16).Conclusion:– This morning as we looked at the 1st part of message #9 – an ungodly man we saw some things that we should definitely avoid in our own lives. These should not be things that we are involved in. Here is a quick review of the things we should avoid as mentioned in Proverbs 6:6-19: * laziness * deceptive speech and actions 1) prideful/haughty eyes 2) a lying tongue 3) hands that shed innocent blood 4) a heart that devises wicked plans 5) feet that run rapidly to evil 6) a false witness who utters lies 7) one who spreads strife among brothers– God is communicating to us here in this passage that we must be living our lives in a way that is honoring to Him. If we are living for ourselves, being guided by whatever works for us at the moment, these things will begin to creep into our lives. According to God’s Word, these sins will bring destruction to our lives.– Again, these are things that with God’s help we want to avoid. Also, we must avoid being influenced by other people that are involved in these kind of destructive sinful behaviors.– Come back tonight as we look at the 2nd part of message #9 – an ungodly man/husband. Tonight we are going to look at some practices that are crucial to avoid.