Extreme Makeover Home EditionA Godly Man/Husband – the pursuit of God’s prioritiesMessage #8 – pt 2Intro class=Section2> – So this morning we looked at the 1st-part of this message on A Godly Man/Husband – the pursuit of God, we touched on 7 characteristics of a godly man/husband. He is an example in his life for God. His actions gain the attention of others around him in the community and the attention of those in his home. 1) Passionately pursuing God 2) Growing spiritually 3) A man of prayer 4) A servant 5) An evangelist 6) A giver 7) A student of God’s Word– Now this evening we are going to look at the 2nd-part of this message on A Godly Man/Husband – the pursuit of God’s priorities. – In the pursuit of God’s priorities we are going to see that the Word of God addresses areas that are crucial for a man to be godly. For a man to be godly he must act righteously toward his wife, family, church, and other people. – A few important questions to ask as we begin tonight, as a man do I desire to be a godly man/husband, as a wife do I desire to encourage my husband to be a godly man, and as an unmarried woman do I desire to marry a godly man? 1) Love your wife and kids (Eph 5:25; 1 Jn 3:18; Prov 5:19; 18:22; 20:7)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will be showing affection, and consideration toward his wife and his children. This means providing for them, protecting them, and spending time with them.* “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,” Ephesians 5:25* “Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.” 1 John 3:18* “As a loving hind and a graceful doe, Let her breasts satisfy you at all times; Be exhilarated always with her love.” Proverbs 5:19* “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD.” Proverbs 18:22* “A righteous man who walks in his integrity– How blessed are his sons after him.” Proverbs 20:7 – Wife * Spend time together * Going on a date * Becoming a better listener * Pray for her * Ask her questions * Help her– Kids * Live out your beliefs * Partner with your wife * Passing on love for God * Spend time with them * Listen to them * Pray for them 2) Encourage your wife to grow spiritually (Lk 1:6; 1 Pet 3:7)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will be encouraging his wife to become the woman God desires for her to be. He will be praying for her and encouraging her to know God more deeply and to become more like Jesus in her life. He is the spiritual leader in the home and therefore must be modeling these qualities in his own life and lovingly encouraging these qualities in her life.* “They were both righteous in the sight of God, walking blamelessly in all the commandments and requirements of the Lord.” Luke 1:6* “You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.” 1 Peter 3:7 – Ways to do this * Pray for her purity and protection * (If applicable) Determine if where she works is a healthy place for her spiritually * Be aware of what she is watching on T.V. * Shield her from people who might have a negative effect on her spiritual growth * Start growing spiritually yourself * Start giving spiritual guidance – help to get her pointed in the right direction * Start praying together * Protect her from physical and emotional overload 3) Raise your kids to love and honor God (Deut 6:5-7; Ps 127:3; Prov 22:6; 2 Tim 1:5)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will be raising his children to love and honor God. This reality of loving and honoring God must be seen in his own life before he can ever possibly pass it on to his children. People (especially children) need to see something visually to know how to emulate that activity. That is why God spoke the way that He did in Deuteronomy and other places in the Bible.* “’You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. “These words, which I am commanding you today, shall be on your heart. “You shall teach them diligently to your sons and shall talk of them when you sit in your house and when you walk by the way and when you lie down and when you rise up.” Deuteronomy 6:5-7* “Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.” Psalm 127:3* “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6* “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well.” 2 Timothy 1:5 – Ways to do this * Love your wife * Take your family to church * Grow spiritually* Spend time with them * Model Christ-like behavior 4) Teach your sons to be men of God and to love their wife (2 Tim 1:5; 1 Tim 3:4; Prov 21:23)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will be teaching his sons to be men who know God and live for Him, and also loving their wife like Christ loved the Church. This is another area where modeling is absolutely crucial. Sons must see their father knowing God and living for Him, and seeing their dad love their mom like Christ loved the Church. Words will only go so far, it must be seen for it to be possible to emulate. This is crucial for raising godly young men.* “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well.” 2 Timothy 1:5* “He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity” 1 Timothy 3:4* “He who guards his mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles.” Proverbs 21:23 – Ways to do this * Make your home bright and attractive * Make him responsible for doing a limited number of daily duties * Never punish him in anger * Don’t ridicule him, talk to him about his interests * Allow him to invite his friends to your home and dinner table * Teach him that making character is more important than making money* Live in a Christ-like way and then you will be able to talk to him about spiritual matters * Pray continually for his salvation and spiritual growth 5) Teach your daughters to be women of God and to respect their husband (1 Cor 7:34-40; 2 Tim 1:5; 1 Tim 3:4; Prov 21:23)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will be teaching his daughters to know God and live for Him, and also to respect their husbands out of obedience to God. This is an area that must be modeled in the home of the believer. This is not something that will be learned anywhere beside the home of someone who knows Christ and is submitted to His commands. Daughters must see their father being a respectable man and they must also see their mother respecting him. This is crucial for raising godly young women.* “and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord. But if any man thinks that he is acting unbecomingly toward his virgin daughter, if she is past her youth, and if it must be so, let him do what he wishes, he does not sin; let her marry. But he who stands firm in his heart, being under no constraint, but has authority over his own will, and has decided this in his own heart, to keep his own virgin daughter, he will do well. So then both he who gives his own virgin daughter in marriage does well, and he who does not give her in marriage will do better. A wife is bound as long as her husband lives; but if her husband is dead, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord. But in my opinion she is happier if she remains as she is; and I think that I also have the Spirit of God.” 1 Corinthians 7:34-40* “For I am mindful of the sincere faith within you, which first dwelt in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am sure that it is in you as well.” 2 Timothy 1:5* “He must be one who manages his own household well, keeping his children under control with all dignity” 1 Timothy 3:4* “He who guards his mouth and his tongue, Guards his soul from troubles.” Proverbs 21:23 6) Be a hard worker (1 Cor 10:31; Col 3:23-24)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will also be a hard worker. He will work diligently at his place of employment and also at home. He will never be mistaken as lazy. This would not be a good example for his family, nor would it be a good testimony to those around him that do not yet have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. He should work hard for the glory of God, but also to show his children how to do the same. It is much more likely that a child with a hard working father will also develop into a hard worker. * “Whether, then, you eat or drink or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God.” 1 Corinthians 10:31* “Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.” Colossians 3:23-24 7) Be actively involved in a local church (1 Cor 12:7; Heb 10:24-25)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will also be actively involved in a local church. He will be seeking to be a member in good standing (if he is not already), he will be giving freely of his time, talents, and finances for God’s service. He will be using his spiritual gifts to strengthen and encourage the other believers. He will be encouraging the pastor and looking to help out in whatever area is needed.* “But to each one is given the manifestation of the Spirit for the common good.” 1 Corinthians 12:7* “and let us consider how to stimulate one another to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more as you see the day drawing near.” Hebrews 10:24-25– Ways to do this * Attend faithfully * Give generously * Pray regularly * Serve diligently * Respect, encourage, and pray for your pastor(s) 8) Be a witness for Christ (2 Cor 5:17-21; Rom 10:14-15; 1 Pet 3:15; Col 4:3, 5-6; Eph 6:19)– A man who is pursuing God’s priorities in life will also be seeking to share his faith with those around him that do not yet have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. This reveals a heart for God and for people. It is a recognition of the fact that people who don’t have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ will be separated from God forever and eternally tormented. A man who is godly will have a burden for the lost. Though the term lost is not so popular today, it is accurate. People who do not have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ are estranged from God and need to find Him. * “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-21* “How then will they call on Him in whom they have not believed? How will they believe in Him whom they have not heard? And how will they hear without a preacher? How will they preach unless they are sent? Just as it is written, “HOW BEAUTIFUL ARE THE FEET OF THOSE WHO BRING GOOD NEWS OF GOOD THINGS!” Romans 10:14-15* “but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;” 1 Peter 3:15* “praying at the same time for us as well, that God will open up to us a door for the word, so that we may speak forth the mystery of Christ, for which I have also been imprisoned; Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.” Colossians 4:3, 5-6* “and pray on my behalf, that utterance may be given to me in the opening of my mouth, to make known with boldness the mystery of the gospel,” Ephesians 6:19 Conclusion:– In this 2nd-part of the message A Godly Man/Husband we explored 8 more areas that enable a man to be who God wants him to be. 1) Love your wife and kids 2) Encourage your wife to grow spiritually 3) Raise your kids to love and honor God 4) Teach your sons to be men of God and to love their wife 5) Teach your daughters to be women of God and to respect their husband 6) Be a hard worker 7) Be actively involved in a local church 8) Be a witness for Christ– These are areas that are all a part of pursuing God’s priorities in life. They are crucial for honoring God and for passing on the faith to your children. If these are areas that you are struggling with (because they aren’t easy to accomplish) ask God for help. Also, speak to the pastors or other men that are spiritually mature for their insight. – Come back next Sunday morning for message #9 in the series Extreme Makeover Home Edition: An Ungodly Man/Husband. This will give us the flip-side of this message, so that we can see what to avoid.