Extreme Makeover Home EditionA Godly Man/HusbandMessage #8 – pt 1Intro:– Last week in the 2-part 7th message in our series we looked at some passages that will help us to learn from the example of the Ungodly Woman/Wife. We saw 7 Errors that we want to avoid in our own lives. These are things that Christian women want to avoid doing, Christian men want to avoid becoming involved in relationships with women like this, and we want to help our daughters and sons avoid these errors. 1) Flattering speech (Prov 5:3) 2) False Advertising (5:4) 3) Fatal Results (5:5) 4) Faulty Thinking (5:6) 5) Flash, No Substance (1 Tim 2:9-10) 6) First Place, Not Godliness (2:11-12) 7) Fast Track, Not Family (2:15)– This week we are going to look at the 8th message in our series which, has two parts also. We are going to look at A Godly Man/Husband. We are going to look at a variety of passages and see a number of characteristics that are evident in the life of a godly man/husband. – This morning we are going to look at part 1 of A Godly Man/Husband. We are going to explore the first 7 Characteristics of a godly man. 1) Passionately pursuing God (1 Tim 6:10-12; Phil 3:8-10; Prov 21:21; 3:13,21)– One of the first things that makes it possible for a man to be godly is that he is pursuing a closer, stronger relationship with God on a continual basis. He wants to know God more and more deeply.* “For the love of money is a root of all sorts of evil, and some by longing for it have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs. But flee from these things, you man of God, and pursue righteousness, godliness, faith, love, perseverance and gentleness. Fight the good fight of faith; take hold of the eternal life to which you were called, and you made the good confession in the presence of many witnesses.” 1 Timothy 6:10-12* “More than that, I count all things to be loss in view of the surpassing value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whom I have suffered the loss of all things, and count them but rubbish so that I may gain Christ, and may be found in Him, not having a righteousness of my own derived from the Law, but that which is through faith in Christ, the righteousness which comes from God on the basis of faith, that I may know Him and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to His death;” Philippians 3:8-10* “He who pursues righteousness and loyalty finds life, righteousness and honor.” Proverbs 21:21* “How blessed is the man who finds wisdom and the man who gains understanding. My son, let them not vanish from your sight; keep sound wisdom and discretion,” Proverbs 3:13, 21 2) Growing spiritually (Rom 8:29; 2 Pet 1:5-9; Prov 22:4)– A godly man is a man who is becoming more like Jesus Christ on a continual basis in his life. He is growing in intimacy with God, growing in community (depth and breadth of authentic relationships) with other believers, and growing in influence with non-believers. He is a man who is progressing in spiritual maturity. There is continual improvement in his walk with God.* “For those whom He foreknew, He also predestined to become conformed to the image of His Son, so that He would be the firstborn among many brethren;” Romans 8:29* “Now for this very reason also, applying all diligence, in your faith supply moral excellence, and in your moral excellence, knowledge, and in your knowledge, self-control, and in your self-control, perseverance, and in your perseverance, godliness, and in your godliness, brotherly kindness, and in your brotherly kindness, love. For if these qualities are yours and are increasing, they render you neither useless nor unfruitful in the true knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. For he who lacks these qualities is blind or short-sighted, having forgotten his purification from his former sins.” 2 Peter 1:5-9* “The reward of humility and the fear of the LORD Are riches, honor and life.” Proverbs 22:4 3) A man of prayer (1 Thess 5:17; Eph 6:18-19; Phil 4:6-7; Col 4:2-4)– A godly man is also a man who is completely, totally reliant upon God for everything in life. He submits himself to God each day, he asks for wisdom, for daily provisions, for strength, and for the ability to do God’s will. A godly man does not throw his hands up in the air in defeat, nor does he try to devise a self-help plan to solve his problems. He is a man who goes to God for help. He is a person who is consistently praying for himself, his family, his church, and every other situation necessary. * “pray without ceasing;” 1 Thessalonians 5:17* “With all prayer and petition pray at all times in the Spirit, and with this in view, be on the alert with all perseverance and petition for all the saints, and pray on my behalf, that utterance may be given to me in the opening of my mouth, to make known with boldness the mystery of the gospel,” Ephesians 6:18-19* “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6-7* “Devote yourselves to prayer, keeping alert in it with an attitude of thanksgiving; praying at the same time for us as well, that God will open up to us a door for the word, so that we may speak forth the mystery of Christ, for which I have also been imprisoned; that I may make it clear in the way I ought to speak.” Colossians 4:2-4 4) A servant (Titus 3:8,14; 1 Pet 4:11)– A godly man must be a willing servant. He must be willing to help serve his wife, family, his church, his pastor, his neighbors, etc… He is the one that will teach his children how to be humble servants, through his example. If he is not willing to be a servant, he should never expect to see his children serve others, not even their parents.* “This is a trustworthy statement; and concerning these things I want you to speak confidently, so that those who have believed God will be careful to engage in good deeds. These things are good and profitable for men. Our people must also learn to engage in good deeds to meet pressing needs, so that they will not be unfruitful.” Titus 3:8, 14* “Whoever speaks, is to do so as one who is speaking the utterances of God; whoever serves is to do so as one who is serving by the strength which God supplies; so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belongs the glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen.” 1 Peter 4:11 5) An evangelist (2 Cor 5:17-21; Rom 10:14-15; 1 Pet 3:15; Col 4:3, 5-6; Eph 6:19)– A godly man will desire to share his faith with other people that are close to him. He will have a burden for the souls family members, neighbors, co-workers, etc… that do not have a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. He does not need to be a gifted evangelist, only a willing one. A heart for other people coupled together with a burden for them will go along ways toward breaking the ice for a spiritual conversation.* “Therefore if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creature; the old things passed away; behold, new things have come. Now all these things are from God, who reconciled us to Himself through Christ and gave us the ministry of reconciliation, namely, that God was in Christ reconciling the world to Himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and He has committed to us the word of reconciliation. Therefore, we are ambassadors for Christ, as though God were making an appeal through us; we beg you on behalf of Christ, be reconciled to God. He made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, so that we might become the righteousness of God in Him.” 2 Corinthians 5:17-21* “How then will they call on Him in whom they have not believed? How will they believe in Him whom they have not heard? And how will they hear without a preacher? How will they preach unless they are sent? Just as it is written, “HOW BEAUTIFUL ARE THE FEET OF THOSE WHO BRING GOOD NEWS OF GOOD THINGS!” Romans 10:14-15* “but sanctify Christ as Lord in your hearts, always being ready to make a defense to everyone who asks you to give an account for the hope that is in you, yet with gentleness and reverence;” 1 Peter 3:15* “praying at the same time for us as well, that God will open up to us a door for the word, so that we may speak forth the mystery of Christ, for which I have also been imprisoned; Conduct yourselves with wisdom toward outsiders, making the most of the opportunity. Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person.” Colossians 4:3, 5-6* “and pray on my behalf, that utterance may be given to me in the opening of my mouth, to make known with boldness the mystery of the gospel,” Ephesians 6:19 6) A giver (Titus 3:8,14; Matt 6:21; 2 Cor 9:6-7)– A godly man will be willing to give his time, talents, finances, and use his spiritual gifts to serve others. He is not a man who is self-centered and thinking only about what he has and desires to keep. This is the model that will help his children and his wife to be giving. This is a characteristic that God is well pleased with.* “This is a trustworthy statement; and concerning these things I want you to speak confidently, so that those who have believed God will be careful to engage in good deeds. These things are good and profitable for men. Our people must also learn to engage in good deeds to meet pressing needs, so that they will not be unfruitful.” Titus 3:8, 14* “for where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” Matthew 6:21* “Now this I say, he who sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and he who sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.” 2 Corinthians 9:6-7 7) A student of God’s Word (2 Tim 3:14-17; 1 Pet 2:1-3)– A godly man will be someone who is thirsty for God’s Word. He reads it to know more about who God is, what God expects him to do, and what God has done for him. He studies God’s Word so that he can hear God speak to him, so that he can be better equipped to live for God in his life, and so that he can help his family to live for God in their lives. He is the spiritual leader in the home, so he must know what God says (or find out what God says) so that he may lead his family in the right way and to the right places.* “You, however, continue in the things you have learned and become convinced of, knowing from whom you have learned them, and that from childhood you have known the sacred writings which are able to give you the wisdom that leads to salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus. All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:14-17* “Therefore, putting aside all malice and all deceit and hypocrisy and envy and all slander, like newborn babies, long for the pure milk of the word, so that by it you may grow in respect to salvation, if you have tasted the kindness of the Lord.” 1 Peter 2:1-3– Here are some practical tips on studying God’s Word* Get an understandable translation of God’s Word, preferably a good study Bible that will have helpful study notes. These study notes will aid you in your understanding of God’s Word.* Pray and ask God to help you understand what you are reading. So that He will help you to understand it the way that it is written, and that He will help you to understand it as it is His will for you to understand it. * Understand the verses in a historical-grammatical way. The words have meanings in the way that they are put together in sentences, and paragraphs. It helps to read, for example, the whole book of Ephesians to understand what God is communicating. Conclusion:– So this morning in looking at the 1st-part of this message on A Godly Man/Husband – the pursuit of God, we have touched on 7 characteristics of a godly man/husband. He is an example in his life for God. His actions gain the attention of others around him in the community and the attention of those in his home. 1) Passionately pursuing God 2) Growing spiritually 3) A man of prayer 4) A servant 5) An evangelist 6) A giver 7) A student of God’s Word– If you desire to become this kind of man, a godly man, you must ask God to forgive you for your sin that you are involved in and turn away from it. Next, you must ask God to grow you spiritually, and to help you in these areas. Each morning when you wake up, talk to God and turn your life over to Him, each day.– Come back tonight as we dive into the 2nd-part of this message on A Godly Man/Husband – the pursuit of God’s priorities. We are going to look at how a man is godly in every day life with other people.