EMHE #16 – Teaching Sexual Purity

Extreme Makeover Home EditionParenting:  Teaching Sexual PurityMessage #16Prov 6:20-35Intro:– Last week in message #15 of our series we discussed “Teaching God’s Wisdom to your Kids.”  It is extremely important for Christ-followers to be deliberate in passing on God’s wisdom to their children.  Do you realize that if you expect other people to pass God’s wisdom on to your kids, you are a passive observer!  God is not calling us to be passive observers!!!!  We must equip our children.  We must train them to know how to live for God!!!!– Today popular culture says that people must seek to fulfill themselves any way possible without regard to whether it is right or wrong.  So this has led to rampant sexual immorality with a widespread cultural message that it is alright to do as long as you practice “safe sex.”  Most times this entails the person not contracting s.t.d.’s or there being a pregnancy.  This is a thought process based on faulty information.  When it is sexual activity outside of marriage, it is never safe.  – This week in message #16 of our series we are going to discuss “Teaching Sexual Purity.”  We are going to see what the Word of God has to say about the importance of sexual purity, and how to communicate those godly values to our children.   * The value of godly training (20-24)          – Keep God’s training dear to you (20-21)          – God’s training will help you know how to live wisely and godly (22-24)> “The Word of God in the mind and heart is like a guide who leads us on the safe path and protects us from attacks. It’s also like a friend who talks to us and counsels us along the way. We walk in the light because the Word is a lamp. If we listen to God’s voice in His Word, we won’t fall for the enemy’s flattery.” ~ Warren Wiersbe> “Discipline (cf. Prov. 1:2, 7), though painful (cf. Heb. 12:11a), helps keep a person on the right path, leading him in the way of life.” ~ BKC (23)> “To keep you” – the Hebrew word has the idea of being “protected” or “guarded” in this case from the “adulteress” which is a woman who engages in sexual sin          * The consequences of sexual sin (25-29)          – The more you lust and fantasize, you will become obsessed and trapped by sin (25)> “Don’t lustfully fantasize on her beauty, nor be taken in by her bedroom eyes.” ~ The Message                    > 2 Sam 11:2-5; Jas 1:14-15> Jesus talked about this kind of issue – Matt 5:28     – The person will lose everything (26)> “You can compare having an affair with going to see a prostitute—rather an insult to someone with a romantic view of their affair (26). It may be that the woman is being called a whore (though she is not literally that) or it may be that she is being unfavorably compared with a whore (!), since she costs much more; everything, in fact.” ~ DA Carson     – A person can’t play with fire and not be burned (27-28)     – A person can’t sin sexually and not face consequences (29)> “It’s the same when you have sex with your neighbor’s wife: Touch her and you’ll pay for it. No excuses.” ~ The Message> Heb 13:4> “Adultery, according to Hebrew law, is intercourse with or by a married or engaged woman and violates commandment #6 (Ex. 20:14). The Law commanded Israel to put adulterers and adulteresses to death (Lev. 20:10), although this severe penalty was seldom executed (not necessarily because of their grace, but because of disobedience to the death penalty command.  Prostitution, mentioned in Prov. 6:26, is any intercourse between a man and woman which does not violate the marriage vow. It too is forbidden (Lev. 19:29), but only religious prostitutes, who engaged in sex as part of pagan religious ceremonies, were to be put to death.” ~ Lawrence Richards   > The N.T. also condemns sexual immorality and calls for discipline by the church of those who practice it.  However, Jesus’ compassionate response to the adulterous woman makes it clear that God’s way of dealing with sexual sins, as with other sins, is the way of forgiveness—followed by repudiation of the sinful way of life. The N.T. also makes it clear that sexual immorality is characteristic of a godless lifestyle and that those who practice it will be judged.” ~ Lawrence Richards * The consequences of stealing (30-31)– People tend to be more understanding when a hungry person steals food, but once he is caught he will repay his full debt for the crime– In the next few verses we are going to see why the example is given about stealing food, because the implication is that the person committing sexual sin is stealing from his/her spouse – not good! * There will be a high price to pay (32-35)– “But the man who commits adultery is an utter fool, for he destroys his own soul. Wounds and constant disgrace are his lot. His shame will never be erased. For the woman’s husband will be furious in his jealousy, and he will have no mercy in his day of vengeance. There is no compensation or bribe that will satisfy him” ~ NLT         – Only a foolish person would commit this sexual sin, it will destroy him/her (32)– This sexual sin will bring wounds (physical and emotional) and disgrace, though forgiven by God when there is repentance, the wrong was still done (33)– The person sinned against will carry out vengeance, and no matter how much money you offer, it won’t stop him/her from avenging himself/herself (34-35)> Prov 27:4> Song 8:6 Conclusion:– In this passage we have witnessed that the Word of God teaches us the value of understanding the consequences of sexual impurity.  This wisdom is to help a person avoid the pain and scars that come from sexual sin.– Next Sunday morning we are going to look at message #17 which is under the children’s section, entitled “Listen to your Parents.”


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